As a teacher, speaker, and author I've listened to countless
grieving persons in the last twenty-five years. Most of what
I know about grieving I've learned from their stories. I've never
spoken to anyone who mourns for someone they love who does
not want to continue loving them in some way. Not knowing
how to continue to love brings great pain and anguish.
Recently a man came up to me at a conference to say, "I want you
to know how much I hated you years ago." I'd never been approached
quite like that before by someone with such gentle eyes. He seemed
as eager to explain as I...
The industrialized world bears a major responsibility for having created this state of affairs and a comparable duty to change
it. The West has sufﬁ cient resources to provide aid to mitigate suffering. We must transform ourselves from consumers of
trained professionals in low income countries into providers of training and care. Opportunities for our trainees to work
abroad as trainers and carers in low income countries will enlarge their understanding and make them better practitioners
when they return.
Some of these are things we can do something about directly ourselves (e.g. ensure that our
homes are properly insulated, and use public transport, walk or cycle where possible rather than
use our cars). Others are out of our control (e.g. how many new roads are built or whether schools
use compact fluorescent light bulbs), though we can still influence them by our investment
decisions and by writing to...